Anger Management for Adults
In the 21st century, adults face a multi-pronged avalanche of ever-increasing (unrealistic) expectations, demands, dilemmas, and responsibilities on an almost daily basis. Unfortunately, these sources of stress, anger, and frustration are unlikely to let up anytime soon in the foreseeable future. So what can we do to save ourselves from the abyss of anger and irritation? How can we ease the gut-wrenching frustration we often feel?
If anger is an evolutionary trait which primary function is for our survival – the fight in the fight/flight response. It begs the question of just how often are our lives seriously threatened in this modern age? And how useful are anger and frustration in helping us resolve the problems we face? Is getting angry the only way, the most effective method to solve problems or does it complicates issues further? Is anger helping or damaging?
Numerous scientific researches have clearly illustrated the harmful effects chronic anger has on our health.
… anger in young adulthood emerged as a predictor of premature heart disease. Compared with their peers, the angriest medical students were six times more likely to suffer heart attacks by 55 and three times more likely to develop any form of cardiovascular disease.
– Harvard Medical School, Family Health Guide. Anger: Heartbreaking at any age.
An article published by the British Cardiovascular Society stated that:
Anger and hostility were found to predict a 19 per cent and 24 per cent increase in coronary heart disease events among initially healthy people and those with pre-existing coronary heart disease respectively.
– Dr Yoichi Chida, of the Department of Epidemiology and Public Health, University College London
If you are a parent with anger issues, besides the ill-effects to your personal health, you may inadvertently instill a maladaptive behavior in your child(ren). What you are essentially demonstrating to your kids is that it is all right to use anger to bully, threaten, intimidate, retaliate, or manipulate others to get your way. Let us keep in mind that parents are their children’s first and primary role-models – angry grown-ups begets angry children.
An angry person’s mental and emotional distresses are usually inconspicuous but potentially more damaging. Unaware of appropriate ways in managing his/her anger, exacerbated by cognitive errors and inadequate coping strategies, anger intensifies further with dire consequences. Eventually, anger is convulsively expressed in such destructive behaviors as verbal abuse, physical violence, binge-eating and alcohol abuse, excessive smoking, and substance/drug abuse.
Job losses, and strained relationships too are corollary of a fiery temper.
What we observe in the moment is what we know. The rest is all interpretation based on a filter of past experiences that may or may not have any relevance.
When we learn to see the truth about irritability, anger, and frustration, we will realize the absurdity in engaging and dwelling in them.
If you or your loved ones are experiencing anger issues, it is prudent that you or your loved ones seek professional assistance. A qualified therapist is able to prescribe an appropriate treatment plan accordingly.
Learning to manage our anger and frustration is an invaluable skill. It is well worth your time and effort, and its benefits are immeasurable. The sooner we learn and practice these skills in our daily lives, the sooner we reap the reward of a happier, more serene and tranquil lives.
This article is written by Stielmond Ng, Principal Clinical Hypnotherapist.
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